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The GOOD LIFE Top Ten

These are the top ten most popular articles I edited last month for The Good Men Project (including my own branded section, The Good Life.) Each one of these articles received well over seven thousand views in November.
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10. The Childfree Life, By Anonymous. [Whether to Father]
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9. 50 Movies You Should See Before You Die (in No Particular Order), By Steve Jaeger, who also wrote a successful follow-up: 50 More Must-See Films. [Both in A&E on the GMP]
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8. Why We Crave Porn, By Josh Merel, was one of several huge hits reprinted from elephant journal following The Good Life’s joint call with elephant journal Love & Relationships. [Men and Pornography]
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7. I Am a Highly Sensitive Man, By Rick Belden [Smashing Male Stereotypes] 
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6. Pornography Ended My Marriage, By Kristin S. Luce. Originally printed on elephant journal. [Men and Pornography]
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5. Women in Porn By Elle Lynn Stanger, also originally from ej. [Men and Pornography]
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4. How to Receive a Blowjob Respectfully By Camille Crimson, was published almost three months ago and continues to be a huge hit. [Sex & Relationships on the GMP]
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3. Confessions of a Recovered Porn Addict By Ben Belenus, and originally published on elephant journal [Men and Pornography]
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2. The Utility of Rape Porn, includes quotes from Hugo Schwyzer, Clarisse Thorn and others, as well as the series’ ToC. [Men and Pornography]
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1. The Demise of the Far-Right Conservative White Guy By Nate Graziano, Far and away the #1 hit, this one had over 24K page views.
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Tiny Hand-cuffs: Poems by Dennis J. Bernstein

“Betty was the first woman I dated seriously after my marriage ended, and everything about her screamed trouble from the very start.” Jackie Summers goes to the Dominican Republic and gets more than he bargained for.

If conservatives want to run America like a business, they should never turn a potential customer away.

Start early, and lay the groundwork at each age by answering kids’ questions about sex in developmentally appropriate ways.

A man with low self-esteem asks Eli and Josie for help in believing his girlfriend when she says she loves him.

Samuel Sattin compares the rumors in today’s news cycle with the sordid 6and libelous story that plagued him throughout junior high.

I Believe Steven Messham

Christian Jacobs lives in fear that he could die of a heart attack at any time. And he’s just 21 years old.

Cameron Conaway, the Good Men Project’s new social justice editor, introduces his relationship with activism.

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Fear of Heights & Changes

Each city offers visitors a custom solution for managing high anxiety.

My birthday gift coupon from Tiffany said, “My brother-in-law Mark is yours for 24 hours.”

Ken Goldstein and his father talk about all the changes of the past 75 years to get at the one that mattered most.

What I felt for her wasn’t love. It was more an addiction.

“What did it mean to be a person in this world?” 3-year-old Walter asks himself somewhere in his subconscious in this weekend’s brilliant story by Sarah Tourjee. Isn’t that the question we’re all asking?”

On their last trip to a neighborhood park, Jerry Mahoney finally gives in and lets his twin toddlers run free.

MJ Kelly learned that it’s easy to devalue emotional sensitivity, until you see it in your child’s eyes.

Liam Day explains the political controversy behind Vikings punter Chris Kluwe’s viral rant, and urges gay athletes to break the stereotype that pits homosexuality against masculinity.

The first time Dan Griffin asks a woman out in recovery, the intensity of the experience is overwhelming.

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What We Have Been Talking About At The GMP- a collection of our comments of the day

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“The times I have truly been afraid, I have deliberately translated fear into anger.”

This comment was from Transhuman on “When women fear men.”

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“It also reminds me of the anticommunism in the U.S. during the Cold War. There was the duck test – if it looks like a duck and talks like a duck, it’s a duck.”

MAY 7, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 33 COMMENTS
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This comment was from wellokaythen on the post “Five Ways Feminism Helps Men”

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“There are more Black men in prison than there were slaves pre-Civil War. These facts are sad testaments. Even though segregation is illegal, America is actually MORE segregated than ever.”

MAY 6, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 5 COMMENTS
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This comment is from Zek J Evets on the post Can Hipsters Be Racist, Too? Lisa Hickey had asked the question “what else to you find actually works to create change Zek?” This was Zek’s reply.

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“I do not believe women lack courage…are men equally afraid but socialised to suppress it?”

MAY 6, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 15 COMMENTS
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This comment was from Transhuman on the post “When women fear men”.

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“A heck of a lot of attraction is predicated on social factors.”

MAY 6, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 1 COMMENT
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This comment was from Jonathan G on the post Curves (or Lack of Curves) Don’t Make the Woman

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“And what would be the other reasons to have power?”

MAY 5, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 3 COMMENTS
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This comment was from Copyleft on Tom Matlack’s post “Is There a Moral to John Edwards?”

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“Can Sexual Harassment Be Funny?”

MAY 4, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 1 COMMENT
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Comment of the day from MediaHound on Julie Gillis’ “What’s So Funny About That?” Open Thread Discussion.

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“I wanna say a little something that’s long overdue / The disrespect to women has got to be through.”

MAY 4, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 3 COMMENTS
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This comment was from Neil Jung, who explains he is “de-lurking after about a year reading the GMP to comment for the first time” to comment on the post “Beastie Boy Adam Yauch Passes Away.”

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“There are few things more attractive than a real man standing before you and saying, ‘This is who I am.’”

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This Comment is by Carla Smith on Tom Matlack’s post “Is There a Moral to John Edwards?”

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“The total of people who speak out and call themselves feminists get to define what feminism is.”.

MAY 4, 2012 BY JUSTIN CASCIO 10 COMMENTS
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This comment was from Justin Cascio, responding to other commenters on his post “5 Ways Feminism Helps Men.”

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“A reinforcement of the false ‘body type = personality type’ generalizations.”

MAY 3, 2012 BY THE EDITORS 10 COMMENTS
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This comment is from HeatherN on the post “In Praise of Small-Breasted Women.”

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Good Feed For May 07, 2012

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Adam Sandler and Rape Culture

Eirik Rogers chastises Adam Sandler for glorifying and making light of statutory rape in his new film That’s My Boy.

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The Marriage Map

HeatherN considers the Marriage Map of the United States and wonders what it says about us as a nation that the issue of same-sex marriage varies so widely in our country.

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Should There Be Laws Protecting Children From Playing Football?

Liam Day wonders how parents letting a 5 year-old play football is much different than the “tanorexic” mother who put her 5 year-old in a tanning bed.

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179 Candidates Thrown Off Ballot for Minor Technicality

Lauren Hale comments on an election technicality in South Carolina that greatly favors incumbents and may even violate voters’ and candidates civil rights.

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Newsflash: America Isn’t the Only Country Holding Elections

HeatherN offers a short primer on elections around the world.

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Mayweather: Champion of What?

Did the Vegas judge delay putting Mayweather in jail so he could fight for the sake of state revenue?

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The Storytelling Animal: The Science of How We Came to Live and Breathe Stories

Stories aren’t merely essential to how we understand the world – they are how we understand the world.

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10 Reasons Men Love Saint-orum

Men are leading Rick Santorum’s mad charge for the White House. Tom Matlack wants to know why.

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Could A Club Drug Offer ‘Almost Immediate’ Relief From Depression?

NPR reports on the use of Ketamine to treat acute depression.

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My Religion’s Better Than Yours: On Tebow, Quinn, Football, and Evangelism

Cameron Conaway insists that this has nothing to do with football and everything to do with what it means to be a good man.

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Even Tough Guys Love To Cuddle

U.S. Army Sergeant First Class Matthew Crowder has learned that he can live alone, but is willing to admit that he would rather be cuddling.

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Contractually Bound – But Not In A Kinky Way

Jamie Reidy agrees that deep-sexing in the workplace doesn’t have to lead to deep-sixing from the workplace

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Is Bra-Snapping The Beginning Of Domestic Abuse?

Joanna Schroeder explains that little boys aren’t the only ones who tease because they like someone.

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Special Series: Men and Heroism

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I Don’t Need a Hero, Just a Loving Man

Jasmine Peterson wants men to help women become the heroes in their own lives.

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Hero Worship Always Ends Poorly

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“Let’s not forget: Grand heroism involves luck.”

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The Art of Being a Hero

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My friend Marcel would never consider himself a hero. But wages a daily war against daunting foes: ignorance, apathy, intellectual and cultural atrophy, and an increasingly dimmed recollection of the wisdom of a bygone age.

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Discarding My Hero

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What happens when you realize the person who has shaped your beliefs doesn’t even hold those same beliefs?

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The Man Without Fear: Heroism and Elementary School

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Dr. Matt Finch knows fear. He has taken a class of first graders to the beach.

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Why Steven Seagal Doesn’t Have Shit On My Dad

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Heroism isn’t about victory, writes Travis Gasper. It’s about a will to survive.

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The Hero in Each of Us

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There comes a moment when our very manhood is up for grabs.

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An Abortion Doctor Is My Hero

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What makes a hero? Maria Pawlowska looks to the late Dr. George Tiller for some answers.

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A Family Inheritance

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For Lucas Ahlsen, it’s more than a family crest or some coins.

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My Hero Doesn’t Exist

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Laura Kinson shows that sometimes the best kind of companionship comes from the imagination.

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Three Portraits for Presidents Day

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Wolf Pascoe writes: “Lincoln’s greatness was that each day, each punishing day, he became a better man than he’d been the day before.”

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The Invisible Man

There’s a plethora of educated, successful, hard-working family men who happen to be black, writes Jackie Summers. So why is it that no one sees them?

It is impossible for CK to enter a room inconspicuously.

At six feet four inches tall, he towers over most people. His expertly custom-tailored three-piece suit hides–but just barely–the kind of musculature that might make a panther jealous. If I didn’t know him personally, I might find him intimidating…

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Is Evil a Derivative of Good? A Theologian’s View

Jeremy John would like to see us deal directly with the concept of evil. Here’s how he thinks about it.

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When Being Good Doesn’t Bring Good Results

Divorce is an extraordinarily difficult and trying event. Having children only complicates the issue. Trying to be a good, engaged father to the children after the divorce is not the easiest task either. It would be, if it was just the kids to manage, but like it or not, you are forever obligated to contend with the other parent and their family. For better or worse, indeed.

My former marriage should have never happened, but being in my early twenties and still immature, I couldn’t be told anything. I was happy to be out of my parent’s house and having a great time in college. I was the master of my own destiny, bulletproof, and best of all, free. And I took full advantage of everything I could afford—short of study hall, that is.

My sophomore year I was suffering the consequences of my poor study habits and in danger of losing my student loans. Adding to that stress, the girl I was dating at the time was quickly showing that she was not ‘the one.’ Making things worse, she started getting sick a lot, clingy, and very needy. I couldn’t take it anymore and I broke off the relationship. A few weeks later, the reason for her sudden illness was discovered—she was pregnant.

I don’t know how to categorize my mother’s beliefs, but I do know that the phrase I heard stated to the men in my family from puberty on was “If you dip your stick, you pay the consequences.” As eloquent as that sounds, it was also the end of the discussion. She offered no other advice or explanation, so I assumed that she meant very simply, you stay and deal with the situation, get married and accept your fate. In short, my ‘fun time’ had come to a screeching halt.

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