Join “5 Guys Talking” about Men of Action -
These guys rock: meet men who take the lead in helping others
Fred Rogers said, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
Helping others doesn’t have to be your job—it might be a character trait or a calling, or something you simply decide to do—but whatever it is, when a crisis happens, these are the men who do something about it.
You can see last month’s discussion with Dr. Adam Sheck here on 5 Guys Talking: The Second Half of Manhood. This month, we’re having a panel this time with several invited guests, as well as our Premium Membership, and hosted by GMP Managing Editor Justin Cascio.
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David Wagner is an architect and missionary of over 30 years experience.
Kendall Ruth is a writer, photographer, and certified first responder, as well as a writer for the GMP.
Kile Ozier is a creative director, and a gay man who supported countless friends through the AIDS crisis in the 80s, finding beds for desperately ill men who were cast out of their homes. We’re also lucky to call him a writer for the GMP.
Miles Solay is the lead singer of activist rock group Outernational, about whom Tom Morello of Rage Against the Machine said, “There’s part New York City Rock & Roll band in them, and then there’s the myriad of world music influences that drive these songs… Outernational is an uncompromisingly politically revolutionary band.¨
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Men More Likely to Suffer Eating Disorders in Wake of Sexual Harassment -
Eating disorders are not just a female problem—-and neither is sexual harassment. In a new study, the two are linked and, to the surprise of many, men are more likely to suffer from them than women.
When the media talks about eating disorders, it is most often in relation to how “too-skinny” or “too-heavy” women are poor role models with poor eating habits. But it is not new news that men suffer from the same eating disorders, and in a new study by the University of Michigan, these harmful behaviors may be linked to sexual harassment.
This is another area that men are often forgotten about because of the “macho man” stereotype, but the research team led by NiCole Buchanan found that men who had experienced sexual harassment were much more likely to engage in harmful eating behaviors than women who had been sexually harassed. The study is the first to examine the connection between sexual harassment and eating disorders in men.
Andy Behrman knows firsthand that for men, there are few things more taboo than admitting to mental illness.
Despite the fact that it’s 2013, American men are struggling silently to talk about subjects they think are taboo. Of course, what is taboo depends on what is en vogue at the moment. Thirty years ago, men didn’t openly discuss masturbation. Today, it’s not a big deal to talk about “whacking off” (formerly referred to as “choking the chicken”). In fact, 95% of single men admit to masturbating (with 89% of single women, not far behind), while 70% of married men and women admit to masturbating.
While depictions in the media, in film and on television still portray masturbation as disgusting, unhealthy, immature and even desperate (think of the characters in films like “Fast Times at Ridgemont High” and “Something about Mary”, who are regarded as pathetic because of their preoccupation with onanism)—curiously the taboo of talking about it has faded. As a young kid, I remember a tremendous fear of going insane or expecting early death for pleasuring myself (nonetheless I took the risk). But men have had a sexual liberation when it comes to talking about masturbation: it’s mental illness that keeps so many guilty and shamed.
It turns out that men are more than four times more likely to admit to daily masturbation than to having a mental illness.
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More than 25% of men suffer with mental illness, although the number may be even higher because so many cases go undiagnosed and therefore unreported. In many cases, men would rather turn to alcohol and street drugs than to admit to suffering with mental illness and seek treatment. Men are also less likely than women to say, “I can’t meet you today, I have an appointment with my psychiatrist.” Men just don’t discuss their diagnoses, therapy or their psych meds openly with their partners, family and friends, not to mention their colleagues or employers. There’s a tremendous amount of shame associated with mental illness as it conjures up frightening images of weakness.
Admitting to struggling with depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, panic attacks, or less frequently, schizophrenia, is a shameful secret that is killing American men every day. Suicide is the eleventh leading cause of death in the United States and 90% of men who take their lives are battling mental illness.
When Life Hands You Lemons, See Lemonade -
If you can see the potential in your life, you are ready to be inspired. http://ht.ly/kHkMN —- Wendy Lynne
I recently read an article that talked about how so much of life is about finding the lemonade in the bag of lemons that you are handed right now. The difference from all the other inspirational messages is that it stressed seeing your successes in the here and now.
My Version of Our Story — Alyssa Royse -
The idea that anything in our lives is inherently private is something that makes no sense to me, in a life that is lived with others. As deeply intimate as the stories of our lives are to us, and as much as we see ourselves as their lone star, we are never the only characters in them. We are each the stars of our own versions of the stories we live with others. Two—or more—characters living the same events, each their own wildly different versions, with different morals, different motives, different lessons, different endings. In my version I may be a romantic savior. In someone else’s a treacherous shrew. Though the events are the same, the casting and directing is inherently different.
The moment that we engage with others, we become characters in their story. Our story becomes theirs. Forever. There is no delete button for impressions left on the lives of others. You can’t take them back, or even stake a claim.
This, of course, is the hazard of loving—or even knowing—writers
Liberals and Gun Nuts: Move Beyond the Stereotypes — The Good Men Project -
Liberals and Gun Nuts: Move Beyond Stereotypes —The debate over gun control and 2nd Amendment rights is us vs them. http://ht.ly/kHgnw
A Surprising Job Offer from Mother Teresa -
A Surprising Job Offer from Mother Teresa — Snake Bloomstrand —- http://ht.ly/kGCcE
“I wanted to meet Mother Teresa,” Father Bennie explained. “I was leading a group on a tour of India and decided I had seen the slums of Calcutta as a tourist one too many times. I left my group in the capable hands of a local priest and set off early in the morning on my own solitary pilgrimage.”
Ask the Feminist Answers: Definitions, Recommendations, and Media Violence Against Men -
HeatherN tackles the first round of questions in our new series, Ask the Feminist. http://ht.ly/kF70h #feminism
Editor’s note: This is the first set of answers from a new series called Ask the Feminist, headed up by our friendly feminist friend, HeatherN. To learn more about this series,see the original post here.
This first series of questions for Ask the Feminist have been really great. Since I can’t really answer everything in one article, I’ve chosen a few questions I think would be good to start. And, let me tell you, I had a hard time narrowing it down. So, if I didn’t answer your question, feel free to ask it again. And, of course, if you have a new question, don’t hesitate to ask it. You can write it in the comments below or you can e-mail me at theblissfollower@gmail.com. So, now for the answers:
Governor Christie Changes Stance on ‘Good Samaritan’ Law -
Governor Chris Christie has done an about-face on his earlier stance concerning a proposed “Good Samaritan” bill that would, “allow drug overdose victims to call 911 without fear of legal repercussions.” According to the Huffington Post, this decision by the New Jersey Governor:
I Overshare Because I Care —Accused of revealing too much, Aussie Reservoir Dad prefers disclosure over discretion http://ht.ly/kEWzU
