March 2012
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The Best Of February... →
February taught us about raising boys, success, and emotionally intelligent sex. Here are some of the favorites.
The Success Myth
Raising Boys (A Dad’s Advice for Moms)
Three Science-Based Sex Tips for the Emotionally Intelligent Gentleman A Reader Responds to Father Shooting Daughter’s Laptop
How Revenge Of The Nerds Ruined My Life
Sleeping Over
About a Boy and a (Temporarily) Secret...
February 2012
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Remembering Tim... →
*Note: On the Academy Awards Telecast each year, there is a presentation that memorializes those from the industry who have been lost over the previous year. This year while working , and mindlessly looking up from time to time to see what was on the screen, I noticed Tim Hetherington’s name flash by, and it reminded me of the story of a man…a GOOD man who was lost and will be missed....
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This Is No “Artist.” It Is “Extremely Loud &... →
A movie about a son who loses his father, and what he goes on to find.
In celebration of the Academy Awards The Good Men Project is proud to collaborate with Static Mass Emporium, the premiere website dedicated to all things film. Static Mass is not your average website and offers thoughtful and insightful dissection of many genres of film from the earliest days to what is yet to come....
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Why Men Should Wear Dresses to the Oscars
FEBRUARY 25, 2012 BY TOM MATLACK 4 COMMENTS (EDIT)
Next time you are invited to a black tie affair, don’t go black. Go sheer purple with the bright yellow cover up.
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Blog Feed -- Hungry ? →
College Courses On Human Sexuality: Education or Titillation?
FEBRUARY 24, 2012 BY JOANNA SCHROEDER 2 COMMENTS
Joanna Schroeder thinks education should include more talk about sexuality, but wonders if some of these courses take things a bit too far.
Beatles’ Ringtones = iTunes Gold
FEBRUARY 24, 2012 BY JAMIE REIDY 3 COMMENTS
Jamie Reidy offers his own suggestion for a Beatles #1 hit...
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Good Feed For Today... →
10 Reasons Men Love Saint-orum
Men are leading Rick Santorum’s mad charge for the White House. Tom Matlack wants to know why.
Could A Club Drug Offer ‘Almost Immediate’ Relief From Depression?
NPR reports on the use of Ketamine to treat acute depression.
My Religion’s Better Than Yours: On Tebow, Quinn, Football, and Evangelism
Cameron Conaway insists that this has nothing to do with...
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The New Bigotry →
Brandon Ferdig gets a deeper look into the dangers of ideologism after a heated dinner table debate.
The entirety of racism in America’s history is as nuanced as it is disgusting, but one thing you can say about it is that it’s improving. For most people, the idea of a black boss or a mixed race couple isn’t nearly as taboo or controversial as it once was. No, I’m not saying racism is...
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Want A Kiss? Sign This: Office Romances And ‘Love... →
Joanna Schroeder thinks corporate “love contracts” may help protect against harassment and false accusations.
As my husband says, “You shouldn’t fish off the company pier.”
We all know that inter-office romance is a bad idea: hurt feelings, uncomfortable requests for toner in the supply room, evil glances over the cubicle partitions from the dumpee’s friends in the general direction of the...
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Special Series: Men and Heroism →
I Don’t Need a Hero, Just a Loving Man
Jasmine Peterson wants men to help women become the heroes in their own lives.
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Hero Worship Always Ends Poorly
“Let’s not forget: Grand heroism involves luck.”
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The Art of Being a Hero
My friend Marcel would never consider himself a hero. But wages a daily war against daunting foes: ignorance, apathy,...
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This Is Our Book →
These Are The Reasons You Should Have It…
Join Our Facebook HERE, and leave us a note, Read a post on the website HERE and leave a comment, then you may be pulled out of the hat Friday, and find yourself with your own copy.
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Treating the Hate →
Sometimes the antidote is sitting right next to the poison.
Author’s Note: I’ve been commenting here for the better part of a year and in that time I’ve given as well as I’ve taken it when it comes the fire fighting that has gone on around in that time. However as much fun these firefights are they are not going to resolve the issues that are affecting us. It is time for all the fire fighting to...
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Good Feed Today... →
Should Grief Be Considered A Mental Illness?
If the DSM-5 classifies grief as a mental disorder, Marcus Williams wonders if it means more help for people who need it, or more market saturation for companies who make a pill for it.
Gandhi on Knowledge Without Character
Goodness is something you practice.
20 Cliches On Lent And Earthly Attachment
I check Facebook like I pick scabs.
Kindest...
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Kindest Regards →
An open letter to the guy who sent some primo “cock pics” in response to my Craigslist listing for my Xbox 360.
Dear friend,
As you well know, these are fraught economic times, particularly for cash-strapped graduate students like myself. This was why I took to the Internet five weeks ago in an attempt to sell my beloved Xbox 360 and five excellent games (including Maddens 2010-2012) for a mere...
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Maureen O’Connor at Gawker: “God, Thomas, You’re... →
Hey Maureen, really?
My NYT column “Man, I need a good cuddle” was actually an attempt to reach across the gender divide and say us guys are really a lot more sensitive than we are sometimes given credit. And that the growing trend of both men and women living alone isn’t all its cracked up to be IMO:
If more people are living alone, in the United States and around the world, I would argue that...
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10 Most Popular Posts on Good-Feed This Week →
1. A Reader Responds to Father Shooting Daughter’s Laptop
2. Smart Women and What Men Really Want
3. Valentines Day is a Hoax!
4. “Call me crazy butttt I would let chris brown beat up anyyy day” @brittanypaige_
5. 10 Responses to the phrase “Man Up”
6. Do We Care About a JFK Intern Going Public 50 Years Later?
7. The Atlantic & GMP
8. A Reader Responds to Chris Brown Post
9. Raising Boys...
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We Have Launched A New Series "Solitude and Men"... →
The Solitary Drink
Is it OK to drink alone? One man attempts to break the habitual routine.
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The Sweetest Sound
During my waking life I’ve always been tormented by noise—voices in my brain that turned terror into self-hatred.
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Solitude: A Photographic Series
Stephen Sheffield shares three images that speak volumes about being alone.
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Touching And Thought Provoking Today On The Good... →
Solitude: The Trail
The Appalachian Trail is the ultimate test: endurance, perseverance, and surrendering control. And outrun a bear.
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How to be Alone
A video by fiilmaker, Andrea Dorfman, and poet/singer/songwriter, Tanya Davis.
FILED UNDER: GOOD FEED BLOG TAGGED WITH: ALONE, INTROVERSION, POETRY, SOLITUDE
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An Selection From Our Archives Of Comments Of The... →
“I can understand the visceral ‘Hell, yeah!’ reaction to this guy’s video”
This comment was by Kier in response to “Dad Uses 45 to Shoot Daughter’s Laptop over Facebook”
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“He was born a wisdom man and became a great story teller.”
Loving all whisperers, Banjo’s story has me fascinated.
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“My top 5 times I cried in no particular order…”
This...
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Archives for Men and Romance →
Love With Abandon
If you are trying to control love or fit it into your life, says Mark D. White, don’t bother. Let it change you.
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Don’t Fall In Love. Fly In Love.
Falling in love implies a helplessness. And if you fall forever, Mark Radcliffe says, you’ll hit the ground.
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Between George Bush and Baseball
Meggan McCann has her own idea of...
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From The Good Feed Blog Today →
Valentines Day is a Hoax!
There is some Big Brother somewhere in the bowels of corporate America who first came up with the idea.
“Call me crazy butttt I would let chris brown beat up anyyy day” @brittanypaige_
The day after the grammys a very troubling string of twitter posts by women has gone viral and forces us to look in the mirror when it comes to domestic violence once more.
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The Atlantic and GMP →
The Atlantic just published “The Psychology of Feminism and the Queer Case of Hugo Schwyzer” by Raphael Magarik.
We have obviously parted ways with Hugo. He wrote many pieces for us that were engaging and controversial, but in the end we were clearly going in different ideological directions, as he even mentions in the piece: we are interested in affirming the goodness of men while Hugo is...
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Do you go all-in on the river with pocket jacks... →
I’m an addict. I’ve had my struggles with booze, food, and blackberries. I’ve always lost betting the ponies. I went to Vegas once and won a couple grand on black jack and then bet it all on the Red Sox (really, WTF was I thinking?). Once a year I participate in a large all-male poker tournament. The first year I got knocked out in the first hour. The second year I lasted until just out of...
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Sunday At The Good Feed Blog →
GOOD FEED BLOG
“Man, I Need a Good Cuddle” by GMP founder in NYT
Can people live alone without being lonely? Given that more people are choosing to live solo, are our needs changing?
It’s Complicated: On JFK, Mimi Alford, and Regret
Joanna Schroeder responds to Tom Matlack about Mimi Alford’s confession of an affair with JFK.
Do We Care About A JFK Intern Going Public 50 Years Later?
My...
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10 Responses to the Phrase ‘Man Up’ →
A spoken word poem by 2-time National Poetry Slam champion, activist and social justice educator Guante.
“New piece. I really hate those Miller Lite commercials, but it’s definitely bigger than just that. Felt good to talk about it on stage. This is one of the first performances of this piece, and it’ll probably be polished some and hopefully filmed more professionally at some point. But I...
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Not All Politicians — Even Republicans — Have... →
Republican Chokes Up At Gay Marriage Debate In Washington
Enough Said.
Please Watch The Video And Tell Us What You Think.
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The Week in Review →
Well last week I loaded up my week in review with links and … no one read it. So I’m taking a different approach here. The ten most critical things that happened this week IMO.
1) My wife took off for a week in Florida with her friends leaving me with the kids. I’ve been unable to sleep because I miss her so much. But I have enjoyed having more one-on-one time with the kids and, you might have...
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White Boy in a Black Land →
Tom Matlack travelled to Kenya and learned some things about himself and our conceptions of race.
I travelled to Kenya with my wife Elena and six year-old son Cole. A minority for the first time in my life, it made me think differently about race and my own racism.
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Black Boy in a White Land →
Once Jackie Summers realized he was black, he found an elephant in the room wherever he went.
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Gender War Hits Front Lines →
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Dying at the front lines of war–whether those wars are justified or not–has traditionally been a gendered equation. Men go to die, be maimed, and come home with PTSD while women support them at home and in the field. The reality is that the bright line has already been blurred as plenty of women have paid the ultimate price in our most recent endeavors in the Middle...
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Why I DO Want to Talk About Race →
Tom Matlack believes that goodness involves reaching across boundaries to search for truths he did not even know existed.
Steven Locke has been a mentor and friend to me now for fifteen years. When we first met I was shattered. He watched me cry and gave me a shoulder to cry on. More than anything, he showed me that whatever my problems were, there was a way through them, a way to a better...
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Why I Don’t Want To Talk About Race →
Tom Matlack asked his friend Steve Locke to write for us about race. He declined. Here’s why.
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Pussy Riot →
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An all female punk band–the self proclaimed “Pussy Riot”–is taking Russia by storm as they protest the treatment of women, specifically proposed restrictions on legal abortions, ahead of the March 4th election. They recently performed in Red Square, getting briefly arrested, while creating a video that quickly went viral in support of their cause.
COME SEE THE...
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Ways One Middle Aged Guy Can Have His Own Personal... →
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In my obsessive quest to be better, and to momentarily satiate a serious addiction to information, I am constantly swimming through the interwebs in search of nuggets that lead me closer to that noble yet elusive goal of being a “Good” man, a better writer and honestly, an escape from that clock that seems to tick louder and louder in my head.
I often find myself...
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Victoria’s Secret Model Quits to Reserve Body ‘for... →
Model Kylie Bisutti, 21, has decided to leave Victoria’s Secret because it clashes with her Christian beliefs.
“My body should only be for my husband and it’s just a sacred thing,” Bisutti told FOX411′s Pop Tarts column. “I didn’t really want to be that kind of role model for younger girls because I had a lot of younger Christian girls that were looking up to me and then thinking that it was...
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Wikileaks Whistleblower Bradley Manning is... →
Whistleblower Bradley Manning was nominated for Nobel Peace Prize. Hugo Martins asks if we should consider him a hero or a traitor…
In May 2010 U.S. soldier Bradley Manning was arrested in Iraq on suspicion of having passed restricted material to the website Wikileaks. Bradley was charged with a dozen crimes from transferring classified data into his personal computer to aiding the enemy. Since...
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In Search Of The Elusive ‘It’ →
Mark White explains how the elusive “It Factor” can make or break a relationship.
After ending my marriage of 15 years—the last few years of which, neither of us so much as blinked in acknowledgment of our anniversary or Valentine’s Day—I embarked on the search for love.
Find Out Where It Takes Him…>
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The Komen Kontroversy →
Copyright Scott Stantis and The Chicago Tribune
This past week, I couldn’t help but follow the controversy surrounding the Susan G. Komen Foundation in spite of my own antipathy towards the color pink. I heartily support battling cancer in all its forms; however, I just prefer greens and blues in my life. Reds make me anxious.
Blame this on the color of choice of editing writing, or the fact...
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HOMELESS CHICAGO MAN DONATES THOUSANDS TO... →
I aspire to be a Good Man. I succeed some days. I fail others, but I keep trying. I do however, have a pulse and have learned to at least be honest in my appraisal. The days I am feeling sorry for myself or falling victim to the negative thinking and low self esteem that lies in residence in my head waiting to paralyze or sabotage any forward progress I am more aware and don’t have to deny it...
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My Bad →
A good man acknowledges his mistakes. An exceptional man learns from them.
We asked famous men (and average Joes) to answer the question, “From which of your mistakes did you learn the most?”
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In September, 2009, Tom Matlack, together with James Houghton and Larry Bean, published an anthology of stories about defining moments...
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SCUBA with Stuffed Animals →
There are moments in a child’s life when we do things to the people around us that seem to have little meaning. Sometimes they are cruel. If we’re fortunate, and pay attention when we’re older, we might also sometimes get the opportunity to atone for them. And that is a magical gift.
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“The Good Men Project interviews a special agent with Homeland Security...”
– Tom Matlack interviews Homeland Security investigator about sex trafficking — The Good Men Project
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THE GMP SUPER BOWL PREDICTION →
This is the “good” men project, right? And the super bowl is a game of good vs. evil. Now that the Jets are out of the way. Sadam is dead. So is Bin Laden. The Yankees aren’t in the game. So here we go…
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Topic For Presidential Debate: GREED →
Paul Kix explores how VCs made 100s of millions personally while destroying billions of dollars of working class pension money.
Even at this late date, in the early winter of another frustrating year, greed still has the ingenuity to astonish. There’s a story I think of now: of greed and its twin brothers, power and entitlement. The Occupy Wall Street movement had begun, yet New York senators...
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Looks →
Short fiction by Richard Aubrey
“Mac, you’re the only guy in the platoon who looks like a soldier.”
MacKenzie smiled briefly in automatic response, realized it was too dark to see a smile, and kept staring at the berm stretching along the Kuwaiti border. They were awaiting Schwartzkopf’s order to move to contact to begin the ground offensive of Desert Storm. What rumors they’d heard of the...
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Everything I Want to Do for the Rest of My Life →
What do you want?
Atalwin Pilon is currently on a trip around the world. This is his latest dispatch.
I did this exercise in the first week of 2011 and to my surprise there were quite a few things that actually came through when I read it again a year later. More on that later perhaps. I have little time and I want to make my list now.
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Another Week in Review →
The biggest news this week wasn’t Mitt’s win in Florida, it was the much anticipated filing of the S1 for Facebook’s IPO. I continue to ask the question of whether Zucks is a force for good or evil, but either way Mitt and Mark prove that the rich guys always win. I also made the argument that Steve Jobs was a bigger asshole than Zucks (for which I admire Jobs greatly).
I did wonder where...
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Meeting Michael: What Really Matters in Marriage →
What did a 23-year-old Megan Rosker do when she met a bald 40-year-old at La Guardia airport? Well, eventually, she married him.
I met my husband on the Internet six years ago. We spoke for two months on the phone and over email before we ever met. At the time I lived in Gallup, New Mexico. He lived in New York City. I had only one picture of him before we met. He had only a head shot of me.
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‘Whiteness Is Not the Absence of Racial Identity,... →
We started talking about race last week, and some of that discussion continued on into this week. Damon Young wrote two posts for us, “Eating While Black” and “I Prefer My Racism Straight Up, Thank You,” that brought in 100 comments. One reader, Kristin Craig Lai, wrote a response post on her blog, dedicated to what Damon wrote.
Here’s an excerpt:
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In Praise of Metrosexual Men →
Quiet Riot Girl asks, “What’s not to like?”
According to the brief I was sent for the current GMP theme, the articles collected here address:
why we, as a culture, spend so much time focused on men’s bodies. Why is this important to us? Is working out a means of self-expression for men? Is how a man cares for his body reflecting his own desire to speak more openly about his personal emotions,...